Domestic and Interpersonal Violence
Abuse Defined
Domestic violence (also referred to as intimate partner violence (IPV), interpersonal violence, dating abuse, or relationship abuse) is a pattern of behaviors used by one partner to maintain power and control over another partner in an intimate relationship. Domestic violence doesn’t discriminate. People of any race, age, gender, sexuality, religion, education level, or economic status can be a victim, or a perpetrator, of domestic violence.
Multiple forms of abuse are often present at the same time in abusive situations, and it’s essential to understand how these behaviors interact so you know what to look for.
Understanding Relationship Abuse
We're all affected by the issue of domestic violence. Abuse is physical violence, as well as intimidation, manipulation/controlling behaviors, threatening, emotional abuse, and/or financial control. Ending the trauma and stigma of violence requires a clearer understanding of the behaviors that define it. Advocates are available 24/7 if you need help.
Abusers use a variety of tactics to manipulate you and exert their power
Abusive individuals need to feel in charge of the relationship. They will make decisions for you and the family, tell you what to do, and expect you to obey without question. Your abuser may treat you like a servant, child, or even as their possession.
Myths about Domestic/Interpersonal Violence
In our society we still adhere to myths about domestic or interpersonal abuse, unfairly placing responsibility for the abuse on the survivor.
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Myth 1: This kind of abuse does not really happen much in our community.
Myth 2: This kind of abuse only happens to certain kinds of people.
Myth 3: Intimate partner violence is caused by stress, or by alcohol and/or drug use.
Myth 4: Maybe the victim did something to deserve it.
Myth 5: If it was really that bad they would just leave.
Abuse is more than physical violence. Ending the harm and stigma of domestic violence requires a clearer understanding of the behaviors that define it, as well as examples of healthy relationships to inform your decisions and interactions moving forward. An advocate is available 24/7 to discuss your situation and help you if you are in an abusive situation.
